Before you get excited, let me preface this with, no, I am not pregnant, nor is that the plan at this moment in time. Yes, we’d like to have another baby one day, and hope that it will be possible, but right now, there is no bun in the oven (grandparents).
That being said, many of Harry’s peers are getting little brothers or sisters right now. Is there some unspoken rule that all siblings must be two years apart in age? My siblings and I were, all the way down to Oliver, who was three years behind Dylan. I always thought I wanted my kids to be about two years apart in age. But when Harry hit the 15 month mark and I wasn’t pregnant – and didn’t plan on being pregnant – I realized that the two year mark was not going to be hit. And most likely not going to be even remotely hit.
So, thus, brings up the topic of conversation: when? We were asked this question a lot (though surprisingly, not as much as I expected) on our recent trip to Michigan, and I honestly didn’t have an answer. I’d really like Harry to be somewhat close in age to his younger brother or sister, but I don’t feel ready to enter the arena again. There are more days than not that I still feel like I have a baby (even if there are more and more moments when I’m reminded he is most definitely not a baby) and I can’t imagine adding another one into the mix. Jon and I love our life right now, as a threesome. It’s finally possible to go places (somewhat) on a whim. Travel is much easier. There are two sets of eyes and four hands to keep on that little boy. Right now, one is enough.
And, if we’re being completely transparent, sometimes I wonder if we should be done altogether. I know ultimately, it’s not my decision that will bring along a sibling. Just because we have Harry does not a healthy second pregnancy make. But sometimes, just sometimes, I think about the dynamics of our family right now, and how much time I want to spend with that little boy, and the reality of adding a second wee one to our brood, and I wonder if we even want to try for another. 99% of the time, I know we want a second baby. If for nothing else, once they hit about five or six, the built in buddy aspect. So yes, we want a second baby. I think. (I can’t be the only one who thinks like this, right??)
How far apart are your kids (or would you like the spacing to be)? What about you and your siblings? Were you/are you close? My hairdresser’s kids are five years apart in age, but she claims they are the best of friends, saying “they’ll be as close as you make them.” I’m so interested about the timing of siblings. Let’s chat.