Birth Plan

Let me just start by saying this being our first baby, I’ve got lots of ideas floating around in my head about what I really would like the birth to be like. How exactly I want it to go. What I want my experience to be. What can I say, I’m a planner.

Now I know, most likely, it’s not going to be the way I picture it. Hopefully there will be some aspects that are the same, or similar, but I’m not counting on everything going the way I’m dreaming it.

That being said, I really would like to have a natural birth. No drugs, no C-section. As low intervention as we can get. All me and Baby. And I know that giving birth in a hospital is not always the easiest way to do this. But again, being our first baby, I would really like to be in a hospital in case anything happens.

The thing I am most stressed about is this birth plan. I’m not worried about pushing out a 9lb baby. I’m worried about how I’m going to push it out, and whats going to happen after.

So when one of my favorite Mommy Blogs commented on this topic yesterday, I was all ears. She talked about letting go of the expectations. Having a plan, yes, but being okay if and when the birth deviates from that plan. All we can do is cross our fingers and hope that we have a nice, easy delivery with no complications.

And really, in the end, we will be taking our baby home with us. And that is what it’s all about. The sleepless nights, the endless diapers, the crying baby, and those perfect little fingers and toes.

On a side note, we heard the heartbeat again today at my doctor’s appointment! Best sound EVER. Seriously. Amazing. And for just those few moments while we were listening to Baby’s heart working so hard, I thought we were going to have a boy on our hands. We’ll see!

xoxo, Mallory

6 thoughts on “Birth Plan

  1. Mary Elmer (Great-Grandma Mary)

    Mallory, your baby does all the planning. He/She will come when they are ready. The planning you need to be concerned about after you move is getting the nursery ready for the new Recor. Talk to the doctor at your next stop and tell him what you think, He/she will talk to you both and put your mind at ease. They will do whatever you want to make the delivery wonderful for both mom and baby. You are going to be just fine and have a wonderful time when bringing this child into the world. When your friends tell you about their deliveries and the pain, just keep remembering what your getting. A perfect child for perfect parents and lots and lots of family to help you both.

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  2. Arizona Mom

    Oh the heartbeat is so wonderful. I was so surprised by how fast it was. I think it’s great that you’re thinking about the plan. I think a lot of people go in just thinking it’s going to be one way and never stop to think about all the options and paths birth can take.

    A girlfriend told me prior to the birth to plan, but not to be too stuck on that plan. She felt that being so focused on her ‘ideal’ birth meant that she struggled for about 6months afterward to come to terms with not having that experience she was so sure she’d prepared for. That really helped. Another friend who was four months further along that I was ended up having and emergency C-section. One of her first pieces of advice to me after she came home from the hospital was to read about C-sections. She hadn’t and felt woefully unprepared. I ended up having a very low intervention birth experience despite worries to the contrary. It was wonderful. Writing a birth plan really helped us focus on what was important to us, what our preferences were and what we didn’t know anything about. We also talked with our doctor about it about a month before hand to see if there was anything else we should consider. We took a hospital tour and found out about which rooms had birthing tubs in etc. Writing the plan helped us find out what was available at the hospital as well. Our hospital encourages expectant parents to write a birth plan and to talk about it with their doctor or midwife beforehand. I don’t think it was always like that, but I love that they’re now doing that. Here is their What is a Birth Plan post, http://tmcforwomen.com/2012/06/25/what-is-a-birth-plan/which is really a step by step and then they shared my birth plan on their Children’s blog and now on their Women’s blog http://tmcforwomen.com/2012/07/12/birth-plan-a-real-life-example/. There are some birth stories on there too. I love birth stories. Best of luck. We’ll be following along and wishing all the best.

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    1. Mallory

      Very helpful link Arizona Mom! And I’m going to take your advice and read up on C-Sections. Definitely, definitely don’t want one, but the main priority is obviously delivering this baby as safely as possible, so it might happen.

      Here’s to hoping we can stick to a low-intervention plan!

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  3. Kim

    I saw earlier that you had posted a photo from the documentary The Business of Being Born. Did you watch that? I did and I found it interesting! People get soooo optionated on this topic and I am not sure why. You are smart looking into a birth plan this early too. I wanted a natural child birth but I got to the hospital and Owen wasn’t dealing with labor well, then they broke my water and gave me pitocin and then the word C section was brought up. By that time I was more concerned with getting him out safely than having a natural birth. In the end I got an epidural and I think that was the right choice for me. (Let’s not mention that I found out Nate does NOT handle stress well and laughed at me everytime I had a bad contraction.) And who knows maybe the next one will be natural! Juli S made a good point that by having an epidural she pretty much saved her own life and Haylee’s because she had to have an emergency c section. Anyway, good luck and plan on what you feel is right. Sometimes you just have to filter out other people’s thoughts LOL.

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    1. Mallory

      I did watch The Business of Being Born! VERY interesting, I thought. I really liked a lot of what they had to say – while some of it was a little too much for me. I’m really trying to open my mind to different options – and do research – because like you (And Juli said) it’s not about the experience, it’s about getting the baby out safely. Thanks Kim – I have a feeling the filtering out of other peoples thoughts is going to come in handy later on too, when I’m hearing all sorts of parenting advice 😉

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  4. Amy

    I want this birth plan as well! It terrifies the crap out of me, but my mom did it with 4 babies [one stillborn] and I find that totally inspiring. Plus, any sort of drug entering my and my baby’s system scares me to death. I say go for it. I have a lot more to say, but I’ll probably just end up texting you about it.

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